by Hyperbola » Sun Aug 31, 2008 12:26 pm
No offense, but you're repeating a lot of common real estate fallacies here.
I don't want to pay someone else's mortgage: Nobody likes doing that, but that's not what's happening here. If you rent from landlord X for $2000 a month, and X has to pay $3000 a month after tax benefits, insurance, maintenance, etc., to cover the cost of carrying the house, then even though you may feel like you're paying X's mortgage, in reality X is actually paying YOU a subsidy to pay his mortgage. So you are getting the house cheaper than it would have cost you to own it. If you save the difference, then financially speaking, your buying power will increase over time, just like an owner's would, and now you are NOT carrying the depreciation risk... X is.
At least we would be paying down the principle [sic]: Paying principal != building equity. If the value of the house falls faster than your principal is being paid down, you are still losing equity. Also, you need to factor in the equity you are throwing away by paying a higher carrying cost than a comparable rental.
I need to make up my losses: Meaningless. What equity you gained or lost in the past has no bearing on the best financial decision going forward. The money you lost is gone forever. It's not going to magically reappear especially for you over someone else in the same situation.
This does not mean that you shouldn't buy - there are lots of other factors. I am just pointing out some poor reasoning. My advice is to think about the following: What are your family's needs? What are your priorities? What actual value do you personally receive by owning your home instead of renting it? What do you plan to do if your new house also loses value and you are forced to move again? What rentals could you live in comparable to the houses you are looking to buy? What rentals could you live in up to the carrying cost of the houses you are looking to buy?
The bottom line is you need to convert all of these disorganized, emotional thoughts into something financially concrete. The better you can quantify all of these things, the more the decision becomes as simple as balancing a checkbook.